Early into the discovery of my son's food issues I had all kinds of feelings going on. I was thrilled that diet made such a drastic relief in his autism and gi issues. Uncovering his food allergies and changing our diet, while not easy at first, was a huge blessing for us. Like any mother though, I had to wonder if this would make him feel left out or different than everyone else. I remember looking at what celiac and food allergy teenagers had posted on various message boards. The children whose families embraced the food issues and, for the most part, made an effort to incorporate the dietary needs into family meals, seemed well adjusted. The children whose families kept the meals separate seemed to feel quite lonely, and not just at mealtime but in general as well. My in laws, at the time, were trying to make things as difficult for us as they could. I think part of that was the stigma they associated with it all. I was worried about how this would impact my son, but as time went on they adjusted as well. At Easter, little cousins wanted toys in their filled eggs just like Gordon's (proving that maybe it's the adults that want the candy in the eggs more than the kids). Last Valentines Day one in law even brought gluten-free cupcakes to his class party. Life, even though it's gluten-free and loaded with a few other food issues, is still as typical as it can be for my son.
Every year our school has an open house night the week before school starts. Students and parents get to visit the child's future class and meet the new teacher. This time, after visiting my son's class, he wanted to see his old kindergarten room. I assumed it was to say "hi" to his old teacher. He actually wanted to meet the new kindergartner with food allergies. He had heard there would be another little boy with food allergies and it was very important to meet him. It dawned on me that he needed to know he wasn't singled out (I have food issues too, but that's not enough).
I was excited to find this article in Baseball Nation called
"Food Allergies: BSOHL Of The Future?", about three baseball players recently diagnosed with food allergies. Little boys tend to idolize sports stars, my husband loves to watch sports and big family get-togethers usually wind up with the men sitting in front of some sort of sport game yelling at the t.v.. So the idea that some of these players can't have some of the same foods he can't has this mom cheering.